Love is an act being done or it happens by itself......

Hi dear friends, today I am going to write on a different topic. It can be funny or very serious for someone. We all know about love and many of you have fallen in it (or some continuous trying to fall). There is a question for all of you.

Love is an act being done or it happens by itself?

There are lots of views about this. Every person has his/her view. I have asked this question to many people. Almost 99% people said that it happens by itself. They gave many examples and quotes for this. I felt what ever they told; those were consequences of love (bad or good). Like- love is blind. Love blocks our thinking process (especially in the view of parents). But what I believe is that love can’t happen by itself. Love is an act being done. Isn’t it?

Once I asked this question to my friend. He told me "bas yaar, pyar to ho jata hai" I asked "how?" he said "koi bhi gorgeous girl ko dhek ker ke accha sa feel ho and so on……"

Then I asked “do you like KATREENA”? He told “yes”. Then I asked "why did you not love KATREENA? She is beautiful and smart”. He said "because I can’t get her". Here is that point that I want to make, if we really want to love someone, this is the only way we can fall in love. Why do people not love her? People know they can’t get her, so they don’t try for her.

Another example -: If you are going to the market and you see unattractive girl/boy. Would you like to gaze her/him? You won’t because you don’t like him/her. So how can you fall in love?

To make yourself fall in love just think about a girl/boy. Think about his/her smartness, behaviors, talking style, way of smiling and some moment that you have spent with her/him. Think for 3 and 4 days and sure, after this you will have fallen in love. Only reason is that you are making yourself like this. You want to do it.

"Love at first sight" everyone has listened this. Do you believe on this? In my opinion it is not true. If it happens with someone means it is only an attraction. It can break any time.

To love anyone, first you talk them then have some time together, may be have lunch together or travel together, may be you like some habits of him/her and other one like yours habits. Then you understand each other and may be after that both start to like/love each other. My friends just have a look that have you fallen in true love? (Or it is just an attraction)

I am eagerly waiting for your views. Please comment.